Gentleman … or Not?

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As I was heading back to Vegas from KC, I was getting into the car rental van and a very nice man helped me with my carry-on bag.  The step into the van is a little higher than a usual step and I always need to hold the rail to balance myself.  He didn’t make a big deal about it but just took a hold of my bag, lifted it up, and gave me a smile.  Of course, I smiled right back and said Thank you.

 

Courtesy, respect, very nice.  He was being a gentleman. It doesn’t happen too often these days. What happened to more of that?  It seems that as the ‘women’s lib’ movement came through a lot of the common courtesies and gentlemanly behavior was also swept aside.  Now I do believe the movement did some great things for women.  It helped to even out the pay scale, it opened awareness of the injustices that were occurring.  But like most ‘movements’ the pendulum swayed far left and far right, before it came back to the middle.

 

As I was writing this in the airplane, my seat partner, Angelique, Angel, and I were having a great discussion.  Here’s what we came with about a man being a ‘Gentleman’.

 

Ladies, when was the last time you saw or experienced the following? (Or men when was the last time you did these things?)

  • Your car door being opened

  • Your chair being pulled out

  • a man rise when you arrive at the table, or when you get up

  • open the door to the restaurant, or shop

  • allow you to order first, or wait until you take the first bite at your meal

  • man walk on the outside of the sidewalk and not the inside

  • pumping your gas for you

  • walk beside you and not in front of you

  

Ladies, when a man does these nice things for you smile, and say Thank you!  You are not ‘less’, or weak, or incapable.  You are a woman and it is a way that a man shows respect and appreciation. Not only does it not make you ‘less than’, I believe it makes you more.  He is showing you that you are important and in that moment is putting you first.  You know the Southern adage of ‘Ladies first’. Enjoy it.

 

My daughter, Alicia and I had a similar conversation this week. She was telling me about a man she is dating and describing many of the above characteristics.  She said, He reminds me of Dad.  She is right.  (Thanks honey!)

Just as a side note, many of these things are basic courtesy, and we can all do for each other.  (i.e. let someone go in front of you through a door, or holding the door open for someone…. just saying).

‘Til Next Time – 

Delinda

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QUESTION:  Do you see many instances of men being Gentlemen?

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My 3 least favorite words

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WHAT’S FOR DINNER?  I have to say that I really hate those words.  It could be because I really don’t like to cook, it’s hard to think about the ‘What’, and it means I probably need to go to the grocery store, (one of my least favorite things to do). I know, I’m so bad!

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When the kids were young and we were in and out, doing the basic life stuff, it never really bothered me.  I think maybe because it was just part of what you did.  It wasn’t an event.  You just got dinner ready, sat down, all part of routine.  Are you following me?

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Now, however, with it being just the two of us, and doing different things, I don’t like the routine. I am often in the middle of a project, maybe taking a break in the afternoon, focused on something, and sometimes I’m just not in the mood for the What’s for dinner? question.  (I guess it really is selfish.)

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Life certainly goes through changes as the kids grow up, we get a little older, get involved in more things, and sometimes the eating schedule and routine are just not that important… to me.

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Yes, I love to eat, but I like to do it when I’m hungry, not when the clock strikes a certain hour. Also, I’m a snacker, which means I’d rather snack away my afternoon or evening and not worry about a ‘meal’.  If going to a movie, I’d rather have popcorn at the movie and forget dinner. My KC friends joke with us that the only reason we have a kitchen in our house is for resale value. There could be some truth to that.

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Now you know the real me.  My poor sweet husband he has to put up with me.  He has so many great qualities. He doesn’t snack and likes meals at certain times, which is a much healthier way of eating. Truth be known he HAS to eat regularly as he is hypoglycemic. It is a really, really good thing he is good in the kitchen. (and he can cook a Fabulous steak on the grill!) He puts up with me and I guess we have it figured out.  We’ve been married for 36 years, and we keep re-inventing what home and mealtimes look like.  Ahhh, that may be a key to the 36 years!

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‘Til Next Time – 

Delinda

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QUESTION:  Do you have any least favorite words or phrases?

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Reach Out and Touch…

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I received such a blessing this morning. I had contacted a friend about an upcoming event, and when she called me back we had a beautiful conversation. It was one of the moments when God spoke through the phone line and touched our hearts. Thanks Peggy!

 

Earlier in the week my cousin from Memphis called.  He didn’t realize we are two hours earlier that the Midwest.  When I saw he had called at 5 AM, I had that sinking feeling of ‘Oh no… what’s happened?”   You know what I mean?  Well, he called to just reach out and say “hi” and tell me he loved me.  Isn’t that awesome!  An unexpected blessing.

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I am so appreciative of special friends, family, and special moments. In our days of email and text, sometimes we go long periods of time without actually talking to someone.  The sound of a live voice, the inflections, the emotions that you can hear can make such a difference.

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Is there someone you’d like to reach out and touch, either on the phone or in person? God may have a blessing in store for you today!

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Reminds me of the song, “Reach out and Touch…  by Diana Ross” 

Reach out and touch somebody’s hand
Make this world a better place, if you can
Reach out and touch somebody’s hand
Make this world a better place, if you can

Do you have someone that you can reach out to today? 

 

‘Til Next Time –

Delinda

2015 –the Best We’ve Ever Seen! 

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Share the Stories

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My husband Bill and I came down to the Phoenix area to Spring Training for the Royals (YEA ROYALS… I’ll tell you about the trip later, it was really Fun).

We were out to dinner, feeling relaxed, and in no hurry, and we began talking about the miracles in our lives.  There have been so many times when we thought we were at the end, or in too deep, or on the edge, and God surprised us. The more we talked and remembered the more miracles we could name.  Do you know what I mean?

 

We had a wonderful time just going back in time and looking at the many times we have seen God moving.  I think it’s important to remember and be thankful, to actually name the moments, and realize how amazing they were.  How amazing God is!

We began making our list and decided we need to go a step further and write them down, then share them with our kids. The Bible talks about writing down our stories of faith and sharing them with our children so they will see how God works in our lives. That’s what we are going to do.

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Let me share one with you, the birth of our daughter. Every birth is a miracle, wouldn’t you agree?  The beauty and incredible moments when a child is born makes us stand in awe.  I had toxemia and the doctor told us that at some point our baby would be better ‘out’ of me and in the world, than inside of me. Well, that day came, and she was born five weeks early.

There were many things that could have gone wrong, etc., but here she was a beautiful, healthy, and very tiny, baby girl, 4 lbs 4 oz. Bill could literally hold her in his hands. She was our miracle.  She and I both had to stay in the hospital for … about 10 days… but we went home together, which was another miracle!

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So I’m beginning my list, some are big miracles like Alicia’s birth and some are small, but all God’s blessings.

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What about you?  Have you taken some time to think and remember times when God has moved in your life? What are the times when God has blessed you with a miracle, something that just couldn’t be coincidence.

It’s fun and so worthwhile to think about.  

  • Remember the miracles

  • Name them 

  • Be grateful

  • Praise our Father who gives us all good things

  • Share your stories of God moving in your life with your family and friends.

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I’d love to hear one of your stories.

 

‘Til Next Time –

Many Blessings – 

 

Delinda

2015 —the Best We’ve Ever Seen! 

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