We have all heard the expression, You never get a second chance to make a first impression. Well it is true, and you never know when or where they might be watching you. We tend to think of when we go in for an interview, or when teaching a class, or giving a speech. The truth is the ‘BOOK of YOU’ that they read everyday is the most read and making the most difference… positive or negative. Think about you…
Here is what happened to me last week…
‘Til Next Time –
Go Out Make it a Great Week – ‘Cause it is Your Choice!
What do you do when you get a compliment? Think about it. Do you say,
Oh shucks, that’s no big deal,
Oh this old thing,
I got it on sale at….,
Oh anybody can do that
No I’m not…
I find that often women, more so than men, find it hard to accept a compliment and not only don’t accept it graciously but try to negate it. Why is that?
Let me just say that being self-deprecating is not attractive, not really being humble, and it’s rude. It is insulting to the person who gave the compliment and who said the kind words. We are indirectly saying, oh you don’t know anything, or that their opinion doesn’t matter. It is really bad behavior.
The truth is in most cases it’s because you don’t feel good about yourself, you don’t feel worthy of the compliment, or it is your lack of confidence. Maybe you were told in your early years not too brag or not to draw attention to yourself. Possibly you were told your opinion or your choices don’t matter.
That was me. I was raised in the South, a girl (which had it’s own set of rules), a daughter of an officer in the Air force, AND we were went to the Southern Baptist church. It was a very strict upbringing.
Here’s what I heard:
Be seen and not heard
Only speak when spoken to
Be a good girl
Basically, don’t bring attention to yourself and downplay everything.
You may have your own reasons for not feeling good about yourself, or being uncomfortable with compliments. Whatever the reasons we need to change it.
Here is a really easy way to do it. It may take a little practice, but instead… try this.
THANK YOU! Two easy words. A SMILE and THANK YOU!
You look so nice today – THANK YOU!
You did such a good job – THANK YOU
You are so talented – THANK YOU (STOP and don’t add… anyone can do it, oh it’s no big deal)
I love your dress – THANK YOU , (me too!)
You look so pretty – THANK YOU, (that is so sweet of you)
My friend, YOU are an amazing person, with unique gifts and talents! You were created for greatness and to make a difference in this world! Believe it, walk it and live it!
(Now say out loud – THANK YOU!)
‘Til Next Time –
Life is Not a Matter of Chance – It’s a Matter of Choice.
If you are reading this then you are still alive on this earth… And that means it’s Not too late! You still have purpose and there is still time to do … whatever you want.
Often we set limits on ourselves by thinking we have to fit the mold – the right age, the right career, the right house… The truth is the right time is now for You! Decide to go for it. Decide to make your mark, start your business, share your life with someone. As long as you are breathing – it’s Not Over! It’s not over… ’til it’s over.
Go out and make it a great week! It is your choice!
I waited ’til the last minute to get my oil changed…. and ran into issues. Was it their fault…. or mine? Do you ever set yourself up to be frustrated?
One of the great things about getting older (and Yes there are a few good things =) Anyway, one of the good things is that I’ve begun to realize that a lot of the times when I get frustrated – it is MY fault. Yikes! That’s not too fun to look at, except that if I am setting myself up to be frustrated, I can also set myself up to NOT be. Crazy I know. Here’s a little message for you.
Can you see ways that you inadvertently set yourself up to have ‘issues’? How can you change that?
When you begin to see those things it can make your life a lot easier and lot more peaceful.