Articles

Jury Duty – Oh My!

preamble-20532-20120118-55

Last week I was on jury duty.  Now maybe like some of you, when I got the card I thought…. Oh No, how ‘Inconvenient’. It was on a day I was flying out of town.  There was the option to ask for a different date, which I did, and they gave me an alternate date . . . for last week.

.

When I went in on Monday I had no idea that I would be there all week, or that it would take 3 days JUST to pick the jury, nor did I expect to actually BE on the jury.  We finished at 7:30 ish –  Friday night, with a verdict.  It was emotional, hard, heart-wrenching, serious, and rewarding.

 .

As we all were sitting in the courtroom the judge began by talking about the privilege to sit on a jury, to be part of the process, and what makes our country great.  We stood and said the Pledge of Allegiance… (I really can’t remember the last time I’ve actually said it.)  Then he read to us the Preamble… drawing our attention to the fact that the first thing on the list is establish justice.  It is good to remember, keep it in mind, and be proud.

.

Here it is in case you haven’t read it for a while:

 

PreAmble2

.

It was a great experience going through the whole process, from start to finish.  I’ll tell you more later.

.

‘Til Next Time –

.

Delinda

Making Better Choices for More Success in Life and Business

.

Question:  Do you remember the Pledge of Allegiance?  Try saying it out loud – Be Proud!

It’s Not Fair

personal-change-reactions-graphic2

.

Life is full of change – as a matter of fact, I think life IS change or it should be! The question is, how do you react when something changes? Do you get ruffled, upset, angry? Do you go down the road of It’s Not Fair? Or do you flex, take a deep breath and go with it? Often we think change is a bad thing… but it doesn’t have to be. Take a look at the picture above. I think it depends on how quickly you can move from the denial and frustration to exploration and acceptance.  The more you lean into the change the faster you get through the process.  

.

What I see happening is that some people get to the bottom end, the depression and the It’s not fair place and hang out there.  Some people stay there . . . for years!  Not a good place to live! The truth is, you can even bypass the bottom end of the loop and go from frustration directly to exploration, What can I do about this? or What is a another way?

 .

If you think about it, almost every important thing in your life happened because something changed. Many of the changes we are excited about . . . getting married, having a baby, a new job, graduation, etc. Of course there are the other kinds of change, i.e. loss of job, or relationship, an unexpected move. Most all change can benefit us in some way, if we let it. It’s how we choose to think about it. I’m not saying it is easy or that we have to like it while it is happening, but it can be a learning experience or a time for growth. We can’t see it when we are in the middle of it, but our hindsight can show us the lessons. 

.

Change

  • in our finances may be what shows us how to be better stewards

  • in where we live can open us up to new and beautiful relationships

  • in a job situation may be just the thing to push you into the career you’ve always wanted but were afraid to try

  • can get you out of the rut and into a new experience

 .

There are the big life changes, but there are also the day-to-day changes, and if you look at them, your process is the same.. just quicker.  For example, did your vacation get changed, or a meeting time and place?  Someone cancelled on you. How did you react, get all mad and angry or go with the flow and regroup?  There may be a time for both, but how we react in the small changes just might be an indication of how we respond to the big ones. Just saying.

.

I’ve learned to love change (I’ve moved 27 times, been up and down the financial ladder, had an intervention with a child, had 5 surgeries, +++)!  I can tell you that when you go with it, not fight or resist it, and look for other options – it can become so much easier!  It may even take a few big deep breaths, but you never know what may lie ahead.

 .

Something to think about.

 .

Delinda

“Change Your Choices to Change Your Life”

.

Question: What change have you had in your life that turned out to be a blessing… maybe in disguise?

.

I’d love to hear from you!  Leave a message below.

Is Your Life a ‘Teeter -Totter’?

Playground-1935130

Some friends and I were talking about ‘Balance’.  Have you ever felt like your life is out of balance, out of kilter (is that the right word?), or maybe you feel overwhelmed and out of control.  Most of us know that feeling!

.

I think it is really about ‘harmony’.  Balance assumes things are equal; work, home, recreation, spiritual. It can seem like a teeter-totter, up and down, up and down, to keep balance.  When our lives get out of balance, it is because it’s hard to keep all of the areas equal, and let’s face it, there are times when balance just isn’t going to happen.  Maybe it’s really about ‘harmony’. 

.

In a band or an orchestra, depending on the movement or the music being played, sometimes the horns are louder, and then maybe the flute comes in, followed by the sweet tones of the piano.  All together it makes for a beautiful song, with a little clash here and there, maybe big loud cymbals, and the relief of a harp or melodic violin line.  The music can be beautiful… but not necessarily ‘balanced’.

Music-music-31055637-1920-1200

In our orchestra of life, our days are filled with many ‘instruments, or choices.  Maybe you have a job that you love and it is taking more than it’s equal share of your time, particularly if you are building your own business. Perhaps you are in the season of life where you children are taking most of your time, or an elderly parent, or you are dealing with an illness of someone you love.  You know what it is in your life. We can still have harmony even when we don’t have balance.

.

There are times when ‘balance’ just isn’t going to happen. Harmony seems to be more realistic. When the areas of our lives are blended together for our ‘life’ orchestra, it can lead to wonderful music, just waiting for the next musical ‘movement’.   We are in the middle of our ‘Concerto’, our ‘Symphony’. Hang in there, it’s not over yet.  The best is yet to come!

.

‘Til Next Time –

Delinda

Question:  Are you trying to find balance in your life – does thinking about harmony make a difference to you?

.

I’d love to hear from you!  Leave a message below.

Upcoming – KC & Vegas

calendar

Today’s blog is a little different.  I am so excited to share

with you a couple upcoming events.

SEPT. 26   Saturday evening at 6:30 pm. in KC area 

The JOY of the Journey, a Christian Concert where I will be singing and sharing the stage with some local KC Friends.  We will be doing a variety of music, including favorite hymns, contemporary praise songs, and some original music.

Joining me

  • Andrew Yates, Drummer, composer, and news anchor and announcer at KMBZ 

  • Dr. Elizabeth Birger, Fabulous Opera singer and voice coach

  • David Charles Smart, multi-styled, award-winning, Nashville recording guitarist –  (http://www.smartfrets.com/)

  • Calvin Arsenia –  Folk Harpist and vocalist. He uses music to tell stories of the heart.     http://www.calvinarsenia.com

  • Peggy Forstad, Music Director and our Host at LBC 

 

FREE Concert, Leawood Baptist Church, 8300 State Line  (http://www.leawoodbaptist.com). A Love Offering will be taken.

 .

NOV. 14 – LAS VEGAS 

Fun Fearless Female – Conference for Women

JW Marriott Resort and Spa, Summerlin, Las Vegas

Saturday, 9 am – 3:45 pm, lunch included

Check out details and ticket info at www.FunFearlessFemale.org

This event will include live music, fun, food and a little ‘Dancin’!

Joining me will be several Fabulous local Vegas ladies who will share their hearts and stories!  Names to be announced later.

 .

JAN. 26, 2016 – LAS VEGAS

Women of the Valley a ladies retreat, hosted by the area Presbyterian churches.  This is open all ladies in the Vegas and surrounding area.

I have been invited to speak and lead in worship. Others on the program include: 

  • Hilda Peccoraro, Chaplain and Pastor

  • Michelle Mortensen, Emmy award-winning journalist and local TV personality

  • Kathy Walk Koch, Impersonator

Mark your calendars. You can contact me for details.

* * * * *

God is good! I am so blessed and honored to be a part of these events.  I hope you will join me. Mark your calendars and get your tickets early. Y’all come!

 

Many Blessings! ‘Til Next Time – 

Delinda

.

TALK TO ME –  I’d love to hear from you!

Arrgh- I’m stuck!

help2

My childhood friend was in town a couple of weeks ago and as we were talking she told me that she was surprised when I told her that when I ‘hit the wall’ in my music endeavors that I went looking for a coach.  It seemed like a very natural thing to me.  I was stuck!  I had done everything I knew to do: new website, just finished a new CD, was on iTunes, ReverbNation, Amazon, etc.  It wasn’t enough.  I knew there was more ahead, more that God wanted for me but I didn’t know how to access it.  Have you ever been there – maybe you are there now.

.

I went on a hunt to find an ‘Artist’ coach. It took a little searching but I found the Coach that is right for me.  This is a very important part of reaching out for help, finding the person that is the right fit for you. Here are some ideas as you are searching:

  • Always reach out to someone who has been there, done that (they can’t lead you to where they have never gone

  • Look for someone with your same values.  I knew a needed a spirit filled Christian that would help me see where God wanted me to go

  • Be ready to listen – I have a strong personality and it is easy for me to want to take over and go my way.  Keep in mind, if you are going to pay someone to direct you, be willing to listen.

  • Make sure your personalities blend.  I need someone who is going to tell it like it is, but with some degree of kindness.  I don’t like being bullied, directed yes, bullied no.  Your styles of leadership need to match or blend.

 .

Those of you who have been to any of the Fun Fearless Female Conferences may have heard me tell the story about how I called her for ‘music’ advice and she told me I was a speaker.  No I’m not, I’m a singer, I said.  She was right. I am both. I have been speaking and teaching for most of my life, but never called it that, I just did it. Does that make sense?

 .

You may have gifts that you haven’t discovered yet.  You may be doing something already, and not even realized that is your next step. Sometimes it is so natural, so easy, that you don’t think it is important.

 .

Reach out. Find a strong leader that will advise and guide you, whether you pay them or not.  If you are stuck, reach out for help! It can be about your life, career, or a creative venture.  Whatever is important to you. What are you waiting for?

 

(BTW – my coach is Lynn Barrington, (www.lynnbarrington.com).  She spoke at our KC Conference and blessed the ladies. She will probably be surprised when she reads this. My thanks to her for helping me to see that there really is more, and I am living it now.) 

.

‘Til Next Time –

Delinda

.

QUESTION:  Do you find it easy to reach out for help?

.

TALK TO ME –  I’d love to hear your thoughts!

[contact-field label='Name' type='name' required='1'/][contact-field label=’Email’ type=’email’ r

JOIN NOW!

FREE Audio Message

for YOU!

.

You Are What You Say

You Are

I'll Never share your Info - Promise!

You have Successfully Subscribed!

%d bloggers like this: