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The 3 “C”s of Life

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So what do you REALLY want?  More money, more happiness, more peace, more fun?  

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What I’m seeing a lot lately is that many people want MORE but they either don’t know how to move toward it or they don’t want to change. This doesn’t have to be some big ah-ha, it can be something small, some small change you can make today that will start the ball rolling in the other direction.  You know that downward spiral that just seems to keep going down and down.  You can stop it and begin the move upward to new things in your life.  

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Take a look at what you want, what will it take to get there or achieve it?  Make a plan, and then take ONE step toward.  You may need to find a mentor, a coach, or someone who can give you a little guidance, a little push to take the next step.

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Here’s the thing – YOU have to believe that you have a choice.  It starts with choosing something different.  Take a chance.  Yes, it may be a risk, it may be scary, (actually it probably will be), but you can choose to step out anyway! Very seldom is it as bad or hard as you think it will be.

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I love change.  I know that sounds crazy, but I look at change as a way of keeping fresh, being on top of things, learning, and growing. Change can be fun, maybe not in the beginning, but as you walk through it, you may begin to feel a change in you and that starts the movement. Think of the pivotal times in your life.  Chances are it started with a change you really didn’t want, or were scared of, or what you feel was ‘put upon’ you.  Did the experience help you grow?  Did it lead you to new ideas, new thoughts, and new season of your life?

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It depends on how you will look at it.  If you choose the poor me syndrome, then that is what you will have in your life.  If you choose the I’m not gonna let this get me down, I can get through this, I’m going to be open… points of view then you will have more success, more ways to grow and truthfully… more success.  You will grow in confidence and that will lead to some of the MORE that you want in your life.

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  • Make a Choice for something different

  • Be willing to take a risk

  • Change will happen in your life 

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And that can be really really good!

‘Til Next Time –

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Delinda

Helping You Make Better Choices so You can Experience More Success in Life and Business

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Question:  What is one choice you can make today to help you take your next step?

 

Eat an Elephant

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What have you been putting off?  Is there something you have been wanting to do, and just haven’t gotten started?  I think many of us know that feeling.  So often the end result seems so big that we have a hard time figuring how or what to do Next. I love the saying, You can eat an elephant – one bite at a time. You can do anything you want and achieve any goal or dream by taking One Step at  a Time!

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So – Break it down. Here’s a couple of hints:

1- WRITE it down – what is IT that you want?

2- Make a list of what it will take.

  • money

  • time per week

  • time per day

  • gather the information you need

  • ask others who have done it for input

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3- Ask yourself how much time are you WILLING to give? What is it worth to you in terms of commitment, time and money?

 

4- This is the most important question to ask yourself  in order to get moving forward:

 WHAT CAN  I DO TODAY TO GET ONE STEP CLOSER

  • Get online and look for info

  • Make a call

  • Make your list

  • Meet someone for coffee to get advice or gather info

  • ________________ (Fill in the blank)

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For today, take 1 step, then tomorrow take 1 step.  You’ll be amazed and feel great that you got started!

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Our daily choices determine our future!

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‘Til Next Time –

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Delinda

Helping Others Make Better Choices so They Can Experience

More Success in Life and Business

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Question: What step can you do TODAY to take you 1 step closer to your goal?

It’s Not Fair

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Life is full of change – as a matter of fact, I think life IS change or it should be! The question is, how do you react when something changes? Do you get ruffled, upset, angry? Do you go down the road of It’s Not Fair? Or do you flex, take a deep breath and go with it? Often we think change is a bad thing… but it doesn’t have to be. Take a look at the picture above. I think it depends on how quickly you can move from the denial and frustration to exploration and acceptance.  The more you lean into the change the faster you get through the process.  

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What I see happening is that some people get to the bottom end, the depression and the It’s not fair place and hang out there.  Some people stay there . . . for years!  Not a good place to live! The truth is, you can even bypass the bottom end of the loop and go from frustration directly to exploration, What can I do about this? or What is a another way?

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If you think about it, almost every important thing in your life happened because something changed. Many of the changes we are excited about . . . getting married, having a baby, a new job, graduation, etc. Of course there are the other kinds of change, i.e. loss of job, or relationship, an unexpected move. Most all change can benefit us in some way, if we let it. It’s how we choose to think about it. I’m not saying it is easy or that we have to like it while it is happening, but it can be a learning experience or a time for growth. We can’t see it when we are in the middle of it, but our hindsight can show us the lessons. 

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Change

  • in our finances may be what shows us how to be better stewards

  • in where we live can open us up to new and beautiful relationships

  • in a job situation may be just the thing to push you into the career you’ve always wanted but were afraid to try

  • can get you out of the rut and into a new experience

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There are the big life changes, but there are also the day-to-day changes, and if you look at them, your process is the same.. just quicker.  For example, did your vacation get changed, or a meeting time and place?  Someone cancelled on you. How did you react, get all mad and angry or go with the flow and regroup?  There may be a time for both, but how we react in the small changes just might be an indication of how we respond to the big ones. Just saying.

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I’ve learned to love change (I’ve moved 27 times, been up and down the financial ladder, had an intervention with a child, had 5 surgeries, +++)!  I can tell you that when you go with it, not fight or resist it, and look for other options – it can become so much easier!  It may even take a few big deep breaths, but you never know what may lie ahead.

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Something to think about.

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Delinda

“Change Your Choices to Change Your Life”

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Question: What change have you had in your life that turned out to be a blessing… maybe in disguise?

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I’d love to hear from you!  Leave a message below.

Is Your Life a ‘Teeter -Totter’?

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Some friends and I were talking about ‘Balance’.  Have you ever felt like your life is out of balance, out of kilter (is that the right word?), or maybe you feel overwhelmed and out of control.  Most of us know that feeling!

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I think it is really about ‘harmony’.  Balance assumes things are equal; work, home, recreation, spiritual. It can seem like a teeter-totter, up and down, up and down, to keep balance.  When our lives get out of balance, it is because it’s hard to keep all of the areas equal, and let’s face it, there are times when balance just isn’t going to happen.  Maybe it’s really about ‘harmony’. 

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In a band or an orchestra, depending on the movement or the music being played, sometimes the horns are louder, and then maybe the flute comes in, followed by the sweet tones of the piano.  All together it makes for a beautiful song, with a little clash here and there, maybe big loud cymbals, and the relief of a harp or melodic violin line.  The music can be beautiful… but not necessarily ‘balanced’.

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In our orchestra of life, our days are filled with many ‘instruments, or choices.  Maybe you have a job that you love and it is taking more than it’s equal share of your time, particularly if you are building your own business. Perhaps you are in the season of life where you children are taking most of your time, or an elderly parent, or you are dealing with an illness of someone you love.  You know what it is in your life. We can still have harmony even when we don’t have balance.

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There are times when ‘balance’ just isn’t going to happen. Harmony seems to be more realistic. When the areas of our lives are blended together for our ‘life’ orchestra, it can lead to wonderful music, just waiting for the next musical ‘movement’.   We are in the middle of our ‘Concerto’, our ‘Symphony’. Hang in there, it’s not over yet.  The best is yet to come!

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‘Til Next Time –

Delinda

Question:  Are you trying to find balance in your life – does thinking about harmony make a difference to you?

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I’d love to hear from you!  Leave a message below.

Always Another Way

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What do you think about this picture?  Do you agree that there IS aways a way?  What is interesting is that our answer to that question shows a lot about how we think and live our life.  

 

For instance –

  • When you hit the wall – what do you do?

    Just stay there and say ‘Poor Me’, life just doesn’t go my way, and start beating up on yourself?

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    Do you reach out and ask for help, maybe you look for a mentor or a coach? Look for a new idea?

  • When someone says ‘No’ – How do you react?

    Do you just accept it and feel like it’s your fault?

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    Do you re-examine and see how you can be more clear, or re-phrase to have a better understanding, or move on to the ‘Next’?

  • When your child needs help – What do you do?

    Just answer and ‘fix’ their problem,

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    Do you help them see ways to fix it themselves?  Do you help them think through the problem and teach them the skills for answering their own questions?

  • When you want a different job – What do you do?

    Whine and complain and accept where you are?

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    Do you look for ways to do your job better, ways to improve your skills to become more valuable in the marketplace?  Do you keep searching ’til the job you desire becomes available, all the while doing your best in your current job?

  • When a promotion was denied, what do you do? Complain, get mad, and talk badly about your ‘boss’?

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    Ask ‘Why’ and then rather than being argumentative and hurt, take the information and start changing the things you need to change, i.e. learn better skills, reach out to someone who can help you improve? Become so good at your job that there is no way they can deny you the next time, by putting in more effort?

 

Good questions, right?  How we choose to handle these type of issues really determines where we are in our life and where we are going.

 

There is always another way, another answer, another approach. Try it on a small area in your life and see if this is true for you. It can give you new freedom and less frustration in your life. I’d like to hear your stories.

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Need some help?  Sometimes you just new ideas, so if you are having a hard time seeing another answer, way, or option – Ask me . . . I’d love to help you find the other ‘Options’.

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Go make it a great day!

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Delinda

Question:  Do you find it hard or easy to find ‘another way’?

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