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Negativity can Take You Down Or Not

Are we going to only look at all the negative things in our world OR are we going to look for good.  It is easy to turn on the TV, watch all the meanness, tragedy, and hurtful things that are going on and begin to believe that is all there is.  But it is NOT!  There is good in the world, because there is good in people.  When we begin looking for good, when we make a point to notice when a child is being good, someone is nice to us, or we get great customer service, then our perspective begins to change. 

 

How about you?  Want to give it a try – Look for good? Will you join me in a 5 person challenge?  This week make a point to notice 5 people doing something good, and then acknowledge it to them.  It might mean saying thank you for a job well done, or comment that they did something well, or even a friend that you appreciate… just tell them.

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‘Til Next Time –

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Delinda

Life Is Not About Chance – It’s About Choice.  What are You Choosing Today?

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Question:  Will you take the challenge to notice 5 people doing something good and then tell them?  You will bless their life and in return you will be blessed.

The 3 “C”s of Life

 

 

So what do you REALLY want?  More money, more happiness, more peace, more fun?  

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What I’m seeing a lot lately is that many people want MORE but they either don’t know how to move toward it or they don’t want to change. This doesn’t have to be some big ah-ha, it can be something small, some small change you can make today that will start the ball rolling in the other direction.  You know that downward spiral that just seems to keep going down and down.  You can stop it and begin the move upward to new things in your life.  

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Take a look at what you want, what will it take to get there or achieve it?  Make a plan, and then take ONE step toward.  You may need to find a mentor, a coach, or someone who can give you a little guidance, a little push to take the next step.

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Here’s the thing – YOU have to believe that you have a choice.  It starts with choosing something different.  Take a chance.  Yes, it may be a risk, it may be scary, (actually it probably will be), but you can choose to step out anyway! Very seldom is it as bad or hard as you think it will be.

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I love change.  I know that sounds crazy, but I look at change as a way of keeping fresh, being on top of things, learning, and growing. Change can be fun, maybe not in the beginning, but as you walk through it, you may begin to feel a change in you and that starts the movement. Think of the pivotal times in your life.  Chances are it started with a change you really didn’t want, or were scared of, or what you feel was ‘put upon’ you.  Did the experience help you grow?  Did it lead you to new ideas, new thoughts, and new season of your life?

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It depends on how you will look at it.  If you choose the poor me syndrome, then that is what you will have in your life.  If you choose the I’m not gonna let this get me down, I can get through this, I’m going to be open… points of view then you will have more success, more ways to grow and truthfully… more success.  You will grow in confidence and that will lead to some of the MORE that you want in your life.

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  • Make a Choice for something different

  • Be willing to take a risk

  • Change will happen in your life 

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And that can be really really good!

‘Til Next Time –

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Delinda

Helping You Make Better Choices so You can Experience More Success in Life and Business

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Question:  What is one choice you can make today to help you take your next step?

 

Are You Hurrying Your Life Away???

I am the oldest of three children, the ‘Big’ sister, and I was always in a hurry to grow up.  I couldn’t wait to learn how to ride a bike or to babysit, (that didn’t last long).  It was exciting to think about getting my driver’s license, of course had to get my learner’s permit first.  Then could I hurry up and get in high school? I mean it was going to be the best… right?

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Next was college, I did a five-year music curriculum in four so I could graduate with the rest of my class and get into the ‘grown up ‘ world.  Why was I rushing it?  It was always hurry and get to the next level, the next accomplishment… then I changed my choices.  (See video)

 

 

Something to think about.

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Delinda

“Change Your Choices to Change Your Life”

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Question: Are you hurrying all the time?  What can you do today to slow down a little?

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It’s Not Fair

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Life is full of change – as a matter of fact, I think life IS change or it should be! The question is, how do you react when something changes? Do you get ruffled, upset, angry? Do you go down the road of It’s Not Fair? Or do you flex, take a deep breath and go with it? Often we think change is a bad thing… but it doesn’t have to be. Take a look at the picture above. I think it depends on how quickly you can move from the denial and frustration to exploration and acceptance.  The more you lean into the change the faster you get through the process.  

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What I see happening is that some people get to the bottom end, the depression and the It’s not fair place and hang out there.  Some people stay there . . . for years!  Not a good place to live! The truth is, you can even bypass the bottom end of the loop and go from frustration directly to exploration, What can I do about this? or What is a another way?

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If you think about it, almost every important thing in your life happened because something changed. Many of the changes we are excited about . . . getting married, having a baby, a new job, graduation, etc. Of course there are the other kinds of change, i.e. loss of job, or relationship, an unexpected move. Most all change can benefit us in some way, if we let it. It’s how we choose to think about it. I’m not saying it is easy or that we have to like it while it is happening, but it can be a learning experience or a time for growth. We can’t see it when we are in the middle of it, but our hindsight can show us the lessons. 

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Change

  • in our finances may be what shows us how to be better stewards

  • in where we live can open us up to new and beautiful relationships

  • in a job situation may be just the thing to push you into the career you’ve always wanted but were afraid to try

  • can get you out of the rut and into a new experience

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There are the big life changes, but there are also the day-to-day changes, and if you look at them, your process is the same.. just quicker.  For example, did your vacation get changed, or a meeting time and place?  Someone cancelled on you. How did you react, get all mad and angry or go with the flow and regroup?  There may be a time for both, but how we react in the small changes just might be an indication of how we respond to the big ones. Just saying.

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I’ve learned to love change (I’ve moved 27 times, been up and down the financial ladder, had an intervention with a child, had 5 surgeries, +++)!  I can tell you that when you go with it, not fight or resist it, and look for other options – it can become so much easier!  It may even take a few big deep breaths, but you never know what may lie ahead.

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Something to think about.

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Delinda

“Change Your Choices to Change Your Life”

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Question: What change have you had in your life that turned out to be a blessing… maybe in disguise?

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Is Your Life a ‘Teeter -Totter’?

Some friends and I were talking about ‘Balance’.  Have you ever felt like your life is out of balance, out of kilter (is that the right word?), or maybe you feel overwhelmed and out of control.  Most of us know that feeling!

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I think it is really about ‘harmony’.  Balance assumes things are equal; work, home, recreation, spiritual. It can seem like a teeter-totter, up and down, up and down, to keep balance.  When our lives get out of balance, it is because it’s hard to keep all of the areas equal, and let’s face it, there are times when balance just isn’t going to happen.  Maybe it’s really about ‘harmony’. 

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In a band or an orchestra, depending on the movement or the music being played, sometimes the horns are louder, and then maybe the flute comes in, followed by the sweet tones of the piano.  All together it makes for a beautiful song, with a little clash here and there, maybe big loud cymbals, and the relief of a harp or melodic violin line.  The music can be beautiful… but not necessarily ‘balanced’.

In our orchestra of life, our days are filled with many ‘instruments, or choices.  Maybe you have a job that you love and it is taking more than it’s equal share of your time, particularly if you are building your own business. Perhaps you are in the season of life where you children are taking most of your time, or an elderly parent, or you are dealing with an illness of someone you love.  You know what it is in your life. We can still have harmony even when we don’t have balance.

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There are times when ‘balance’ just isn’t going to happen. Harmony seems to be more realistic. When the areas of our lives are blended together for our ‘life’ orchestra, it can lead to wonderful music, just waiting for the next musical ‘movement’.   We are in the middle of our ‘Concerto’, our ‘Symphony’. Hang in there, it’s not over yet.  The best is yet to come!

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‘Til Next Time –

Delinda

Question:  Are you trying to find balance in your life – does thinking about harmony make a difference to you?

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