Being Present- an interesting phrase. Just what does it mean?
I’ve spent a good part of my life ‘not’ being present. As I would be doing one thing I would be thinking about several others, my brain racing from what’s next, what am I doing next week, vacation plans, yearly goals, etc. I found that time passed, way too quickly, and I wasn’t really enjoying much. Have you ever felt that way?
So, I made a decision-
- STOP. Yes, stop and think about what I was doing, what I want to do, how to spend my time. Stop and think about what I want for my life.
- MAKE A LIST – yep here we go again, those lists. List the important things that I decided on in #1.
- DECIDE TO BE PRESENT. No matter where I am… Be There!
What brought this to mind was a trip to see my Mother this week. My normal thought is, do I have the time to go? I decided it was important. She is in her 80’s and the time we have is special. I am a doer and high energy, and these visits mean I go into slow motion, turn off the thoughts of what else I need to be doing, etc., and be present. Does this make sense?
The blessing is, when I am present, the time does become special. I focus on her, help her with some things that she needs done, we went shopping, and she got her hair colored. This may not sound like a big deal, but to her it was. She doesn’t like going to the salon, but she was comfortable with me going with her. It made memories.
When I get home I’ll pick up the other balls and handle them as necessary. No matter what it is, by being present, I enjoy my time, don’t have as many regrets, and I’m making memories. Not bad trade-offs.
Even while I am writing this, I am present. I want to share lessons I am learning and share some insight to who I am as we share this journey together.
Blessings
Delinda
QUESTION: Do you ever find that you are ‘not’ present, but just doing? I’d love to know your thoughts.
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Another beautifully written and insightful post. This is really hard to conquer for someone with ADHD Multi-tasker. SO glad the memories were made with your Mother.