In our family September is the birthday month. Actually about mid-Aug we begin the birthday celebrations. My Mother who just turned 86, Aug 15, and is doing Great- YAY Mother! Then my son Justin, Aug. 20, new little nephew Brighton is Aug. 30.
September brings Bill’s sister Pat, who is happily celebrating 80 – She is unbelievable and is my inspiration. She plays tennis a few times a week, is consistently performing in local theater and choral groups – I want to be just like her – GO PAT!!! (Of course I really should start now if I want to match her energy and activity level.) Next is Bill, then my sister, Charisse. I think there are a few more, nieces and maybe a nephew in September, but I don’t remember the dates.
The point is, I love birthdays! It celebrates the person, being alive and experiencing all that life has to offer. I particularly like balloons, cake, and ice cream! I know, I know…. the SUGAR! But come on, what’s better than cake and ice cream… other than a hot fudge brownie sundae!
We are in Hilton Head, South Carolina, area this weekend for the big ’80’ party with Bill’s family, Pat’s three sons are here, plus their families. We cooked all day, OK, to be honest the men cooked all day, and we helped by doing the clean up behind them and the dishes afterwards.
Of course there was plenty of food – always. It seems all you do at these gatherings is EAT! Here’s a pic of one of the food tables. Food provides the atmosphere for catching up, getting to know each other, and sharing stories.
We decided it takes a village to throw a party. We had about 60 people over at her house for a great party and dinner. A perfect time for sharing and celebrating.
Oh yes, there is the follow up breakfast – Larson Swedish pancake breakfast,
with all the fixings, bacon eggs, lingonberries and coffee!
So HAPPY BIRTHDAY, whenever you birthday is! Each day is a blessing, and every birthday celebrates your life! ENJOY!
Many Blessings! ‘Til Next Time –
Question: Do you like birthdays? What is your favorite celebration?
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What is love anyway? Is it loving people only when you ‘approve’ of them? Is it Love when they have ‘proper’ behavior? Is it Love when they choose a different direction? Can we Love when they disrespect, rebel, or are hurtful? Can we love them ‘anyway’?
Relations can be hard, and as a parent, I think that is the hardest job out there. It has the most joy, greatest heartache, the lowest lows and the highest highs.
I had a special friend message me and ask about some of the things I have encountered. I shared openly with her about some of our trials, things we have faced as parents. She is having a painful issue in their family with a child and she asked my thoughts or advice. Certainly I don’t have all the answers and have made plenty of mistakes. All I really had to share with her is this – Love them. Love them anyway….. ‘even if…..”.
You don’t agree
You don’t understand
You believe it is wrong
Sometimes it may mean you have to use ‘tough Love’, remember the key is the Love. We can agree to disagree. We can love the child/person, but not the behavior. There is a difference. Sometimes it is hard to this, but we can do it.
Our biggest role model is Jesus. He took His love to the very end. He cares about us, created us, and continues to Love us… no matter what. He Loves us anyway. Yes, we have to face the consequences of our choices, our actions, etc., but along the journey He is there. He is here. He loves us.
Period. End of story.
So we in turn Love others, love through the hard times, and Love through the best times.
As Christians we are commanded to Love one another, not judge.
Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. I John 4:7-8
(One thing here, if you are in a harmful relationship, abuse, or other…Please get help. In this case, LOVE yourself (and your kids) even to leave and get help.)
Many Blessings! ‘Til Next Time –
QUESTION: Have you had a time when you had agree to disagree with a loved one ?
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My childhood friend was in town a couple of weeks ago and as we were talking she told me that she was surprised when I told her that when I ‘hit the wall’ in my music endeavors that I went looking for a coach. It seemed like a very natural thing to me. I was stuck! I had done everything I knew to do: new website, just finished a new CD, was on iTunes, ReverbNation, Amazon, etc. It wasn’t enough. I knew there was more ahead, more that God wanted for me but I didn’t know how to access it. Have you ever been there – maybe you are there now.
I went on a hunt to find an ‘Artist’ coach. It took a little searching but I found the Coach that is right for me. This is a very important part of reaching out for help, finding the person that is the right fit for you. Here are some ideas as you are searching:
Always reach out to someone who has been there, done that (they can’t lead you to where they have never gone
Look for someone with your same values. I knew a needed a spirit filled Christian that would help me see where God wanted me to go
Be ready to listen – I have a strong personality and it is easy for me to want to take over and go my way. Keep in mind, if you are going to pay someone to direct you, be willing to listen.
Make sure your personalities blend. I need someone who is going to tell it like it is, but with some degree of kindness. I don’t like being bullied, directed yes, bullied no. Your styles of leadership need to match or blend.
Those of you who have been to any of the Fun Fearless Female Conferences may have heard me tell the story about how I called her for ‘music’ advice and she told me I was a speaker. No I’m not, I’m a singer, I said. She was right. I am both. I have been speaking and teaching for most of my life, but never called it that, I just did it. Does that make sense?
You may have gifts that you haven’t discovered yet. You may be doing something already, and not even realized that is your next step. Sometimes it is so natural, so easy, that you don’t think it is important.
Reach out. Find a strong leader that will advise and guide you, whether you pay them or not. If you are stuck, reach out for help! It can be about your life, career, or a creative venture. Whatever is important to you. What are you waiting for?
(BTW – my coach is Lynn Barrington, (www.lynnbarrington.com). She spoke at our KC Conference and blessed the ladies. She will probably be surprised when she reads this. My thanks to her for helping me to see that there really is more, and I am living it now.)
‘Til Next Time –
QUESTION: Do you find it easy to reach out for help?
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Let me ask you a question. When you are taking a step toward your passion, or your dream, do you sometimes get side-tracked? As I was thinking about this I remembered a blog I wrote a couple years ago, so I am refreshing it.
“Both Feet in the Water …
Being raised as an ‘air force brat’, a child of an officer, a girl in the south, being the older sister, and the daughter of an alcoholic, has had a major impact on my life. I tend to put others first, take care of others, and basically put my needs, desires, and goals behind everyone else’s. Whether that was consciously or not—it really has been the truth, and has been my reality. I am sure many of you women out there are shaking your heads… you know exactly what I mean. Now I am not saying it is bad to put others first, matter of fact that is a good thing. Just follow my thoughts here.
Many times as I would start taking a step toward my passion, I’d get one foot in the water, so to speak, and then, almost get the second foot in and ‘Voila’, someone needed me for something… my kids, husband, someone or something at church… my Mother, other family… whoever.
Really, it didn’t matter who or what… they would always take precedence over my plan, or my goal. Have ya’ll ever felt that way? Do you have desires, goals, or a calling that just never seems to happen… you never seem to have time, etc, to act on ‘IT’? I would imagine that you do, matter of fact I’d bet on it. (I am in Las Vegas after all).
Let me first say, it has taken a little time and some work to realize this, but now that I am aware of this tendency… things are changing.
Here’s the real issue, at least for me. I truly believe the calling that I feel, this fire and passion within me… is God’s calling. It is to serve Him by sharing with others, through the gifts He has given me, His love and joy, and to encourage others.
So when I put all these ‘other’ things first, I am really putting them in front of HIM. YIKES! That hurts my heart! It really changes everything… it’s one thing to put others before my ‘selfish’ desires, but to put them in front of Him is like saying… OK Lord… wait just a sec, I gotta take care of this. Opps, sorry Lord, don’t have time for You… I gotta take care of ‘whatever’.
This is so wrong. I don’t want to do that anymore! I’m praying that He will show me each time I begin to do that, to make a decision for someone or something else instead of Him.
Does that change how you look at the desire or the call, that you feel in your heart?
God has planted those desires INSIDE of you—When scripture says He will give you the desires of your heart—Well, HE is the one who puts them there, so He will bring it to pass. We just can’t put Him behind everyone and everything else.
It is time to put BOTH feel in the water… not just sticking our toes in and out, but KEEP them there, moving forward step by step and day by day.”
‘Til Next Time –
Many Blessings –
2015 —the Best We’ve Ever Seen!
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