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Relax and Rest

This week my sister and I went to Carmel, Ca. We had such a great time of just hanging out together! Gosh it is beautiful over there!

So often in our hurried schedules of going and doing we forget to relax. That’s why vacations, mini-getaways, or anything that takes you away from your regular schedule are so important. Our bodies and our minds need to rest and relax.

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There are a lot of studies that are showing that when you rest and re-charge you are actually more productive and able to handle things better. Most often the thought is we have to keep going and pushing in order to get everything done. The studies show that isn’t true. Unfortunately what happens is we wear ourselves out, burn out, or our performance goes down.

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Take a little get away. IF you can leave town for a day or two – Go for it. IF you can only steal an hour away – Do it! Try going to bed and hour early. Go to the park, read a book, take a walk, and start planning a trip. You deserve a little R & R!

‘Til Next Time –

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Delinda

Making Better Choices for More Success in Life and Business

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Question: What can you do this week to Rest & Relax?

Hey You.

Do you realize that the world LIES??? Often the world, parents, friends, or teachers may have told you lies. It’s important to realize what they are and catch them before they get to your heart.

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Here are a few of the lies you may have been told:

You don’t have what it takes
You are not enough
You are not smart enough
You don’t measure up
You’re ugly, stupid, worthless

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I’d like you to do a little exercise with me. Go find a piece of paper, probably bigger than a post-it. On this paper write the lies that others have told you, or you felt by their attitude toward you. Go ahead. Take a few minutes and write them down. Do it now.

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READ THE NOTE. SAY OUT LOUD – These are LIES!

I am not stupid. I am not worthless. I am a child of God.
I am not a mistake, God knew me before I was born.
Go on… fill in your blank.
I AM NOT ____________

INSTEAD change it to – I am ___________!

(smart, talented, gifted, special, loved…)

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These lies are the enemy of our influence and can hold us back. There are a myriad of voices that tell us what to do and what not to do. They only offer choices of fear, comparison, jealousy, insecurity, pride, and control.

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Now choose You and the truth. Take that piece of paper and destroy it. Burn it, shred it, or throw down the toilet. (This is a powerful visual.) Gone are the lies. This is not who you are or who God created you to be. Did you do it? Did you totally get rid of it? I mean it; don’t hold on to those lies. Do it now!

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Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself to others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life. Gal 6:4-5 MSG (www.Biblegateway.com)

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It is an understanding that what you do today matters, so give it everything you’ve got. You have a WOW factor! It will give you the courage to step confidently into your God-given sphere of Influence and to step into your God-sized dreams!
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‘Til next time – Keep in mind

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Destiny is not matter of Chance – It’s a Matter of Choice!

Choose wisely and go out and make it a great day!

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Delinda

Question: How did it make you feel to GET RID of the lies??

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Busy Bee – NOT!

Busy– that is our blanket answer. Recently, my sister had some stuff going on in her life, and I didn’t even know about until it was over…why? She thought I was too ‘busy’ and didn’t want to bother me.

Yikes! I want relationships, my family and friends to be my priority…not being ‘Busy’. Maybe you’ve had something like that happen. Have people stopped asking you to do things, or go places, or stopped sharing their lives with you? It may be because when we say how busy we are, and they believe it, and don’t want to bother us. I don’t think we intentionally want them to leave us alone, but that may be what they perceive.

So, let’s change it. If you are not ‘Busy’, then what are you? How are you? How’s life going? What other answers can we give? Sometimes we don’t have a lot of time to go into a full blown answer, but are there are more honest answers than the blanket, I’ve been so busy.

Here are a few thoughts, and this is just to stimulate your mind, so you can think of your own.

So, my friend, How are you?

Great! (Sooo much better than ‘busy’, ‘Fine’, or OK)
I’m blessed
I’m letting go (they might ask of what? of the things that tie me down, the things that hold me back)
I’m excited about what God is doing in my life (now THERE is an answer… if it’s true)
Really enjoying my family.
Traveling and loving it
Traveling and learning to adjust to new schedules

What have you been up to?

Working on a new projects
I’ve been seeking some new opportunities
I’m dealing with some issues right now, we can talk later
Getting ready to make some changes in my life

My life is a little crazy and out of balance, but I’m working on it
Other? _____________________ (you fill it in)

Now most of the time when someone ask the question they are not looking for a long full blown list of what is going on, (there’s a time and place for that). However, in most cases I think they would like a ‘real’ answer. You can always say, let’s talk later, or let’s get together, etc.

Mainly for me, I don’t want them to think I am ignoring them, avoiding them, or that I’m too ‘Busy’ for them, (unless of course, you are).

‘Til next time.

BLESSINGS!

Delinda

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I’m Busy – an Excuse?

Sometimes I’m so busy is an excuse… Let me say, I’m not talking about being diligent, and productive, and living your life with excellence. Many times our lives get out of balance because of an event, or a special project, etc. This isn’t the kind of busy I’m talking about. It seems for years it has been the sign of importance to be Busy. The busier we are raises our self-esteem and how others perceive us, right? If we are not Busy, then we must be a slacker, right?

Well, I’m not sure that is true anymore, at least I hope it is changing. I see my kids and their friends, and I don’t think they think that way. They seem to make time to ‘be’, to enjoy, and be real. They don’t really ‘get’ why it’s necessary to be Busy all the time. I think they may have found balance. The truth is when we are not so Busy we can enjoy our relationships, our ‘Moments’, and we can take time to stop and have coffee with a friend, or go to a movie.

Reasons we may use ‘Busy’ as an excuse:

To get out of things we don’t want to do
To manipulate situations in our best interest (Ouch that’s a bad one)
To try and keep up with others that we think are better and more productive than we are
To say something else may make us feel vulnerable
To keep from making a commitment
To keep from having to just say ‘No’

I didn’t get out of the house much this week as I was working on some projects, but even so I caught myself getting ready to tell someone , ‘I’ve been so busy’, but instead I gave a different answer.

Next time I have some other choices we can say. How about you? How do you answer the question, How are you?

‘Til next time.

BLESSINGS!

Delinda

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I’m Not ‘Busy’… Really?

I’m NOT busy – Really???

When someone asks the question, How are you? or How you doing?, the answer many of us give is, I’m busy, or I’ve been so busy! This a our typical, quick, and not so well thought out answer. That’s why If someone replied with the answer, I’m Not ‘Busy’, or some other answer, we would probably go into shock… Really? You’re kidding, right?

To be sure, in our society, at least American society, the busier the better — right? It shows that we are important, or that people think a lot of us, it may even be the scale on which we are all judged… right? Go-Go-Go!

Well.. let’s Re-Think it. I read a great article on Busy-ness, by Tyler Ward, and I’ve been thinking about it all week.

Here’s a few questions:

Is being’ Busy’ really all it’s cracked up to be?
Does being ‘Busy’ mean our life is important?
Does being ‘Busy’ make our life better?
Are we being ‘Busy’ at what we love, or just being ‘Busy’ for busy-ness sake?

I’m going to talk about this for a few posts, but in the meantime, I am pledging to not use the word ‘Busy’ when asked how life is going, how was your trip, or in answer to how I am doing. I’m going to think about it, and answer with a more appropriate, more authentic answer.

AND if you ask me that question and I fall back into my old habit of saying ‘busy’, then stop and remind me =)

‘Til next time.

BLESSINGS!

Delinda

To enjoy the article, go to http://www.tylerwardis.com/busy-isnt-respectable-anymore/

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